Shirley Cole

Quick tip: choosing to treat the negative people around you with love and kindness doesn’t mean that you have to allow yourself to be walked over. Distance is necessary for any relationship, and if someone is having a negative effect on you, you owe it to yourself and your own happiness to be able and prepared to put a bit of distance between them and you. Be brave and be kind, and don’t let people take you away from your resolution to be kind, loving, and to act with integrity, because those things come from inside, not from what other people observe. You don’t need anyone else’s permission or validation to be happy within yourself.

Quick tip: choosing to treat the negative people around you with love and kindness doesn’t mean that you have to allow yourself to be walked over. Distance is necessary for any relationship, and if someone is having a negative effect on you, you owe it to yourself and your own happiness to be able and prepared to put a bit of distance between them and you. Be brave and be kind, and don’t let people take you away from your resolution to be kind, loving, and to act with integrity, because those things come from inside, not from what other people observe. You don’t need anyone else’s permission or validation to be happy within yourself.

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pick up on when something is wrong so that you can nip it in the bud by addressing it before it has the chance to grow into a larger and further reaching problem.

wrong so that you can nip it in the bud by addressing it before it has the chance to grow into a larger and further reaching problem

The problem with this, of course, is that more often than not their partner isn’t looking to have their problem solved. In all likeliness, there isn’t really a problem, and they already know what course

Seek to understand, rather than agree - When you’re the receiver, you have a goal, too.

the language understood by the receiver - Speak in a way that is tailored to your audience.

Stay focused on your task - Whatever your