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interpersonal rupture and repair is good for building resilience.

For my Māori hosts, pain, distress, and dysfunction would arise from some form of fragmentation, disconnection, dyssynchrony.

colonization intentionally fragments families, community cohesion, and cultures, and that disconnection is at the heart of trauma.

Many of the healing practices and rituals involve “reconnection”—explicit articulation of the origins of connection.

a view of health that granulated the complexity of a person into component parts—treated by the bone doctor, eye doctor, brain doctor, and so on—was simply missing the core elements of health. If connectedness—whanaungatanga—wasn’t addressed, the potential effectiveness of Western interventions was blunted.

Our stress-response systems are drained by constantly monitoring the sensory cacophony of the modern world:

In our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,”

our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,” or connectedness.

In our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,” or connectedness.

One study documented a 40 percent increase in psychopathology in American college students over the last thirty years; the authors
suggest that this is related to “cultural shifts towards extrinsic goals such as materialism and status and away from intrinsic goals, such as community, meaning in life, and affiliation.”