Why didn't somebody tell me this sooner

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So what should we learn from this? First, don’t label people. What you saw or heard that’s tempting you to label a whole group of people actually only applies to the person or people that did or said the thing, not the whole group. Second, when you’re tempted to write off something or someone as just being the exception to your belief (in other words, to let your brain take its shortcut even when there’s evidence that it’s wrong), ask yourself if your belief might need some reevaluating and potentially some adjusting—or if it’s just flat out wrong.

Just because you’re not good at something now does not mean it’s not for you. It doesn’t mean you should quit. If it’s something you want or need to be

good at, you can achieve that—but you’ll have to work really hard for it and probably for a really long time. Instead of thinking, “I’m just not good at this,”

can’t make ends meet?

What I wish somebody had told me back then is you should start figuring out who you are, what you love doing, and what you believe in when you’re young. Clarity about your hobbies, interests, and values will ensure you don’t just dissolve away when you’re in relationships (romantic or friendly) with other people.

kind of hard to figure out exactly what you’re passionate about doing in your spare time.)

There’s actually research on this that found that athletes who finished in second place at the Olympic Games (who are mentally comparing themselves to the athletes who finished first and thinking things like, “Ugh, I was so close to winning gold!”) are actually less happy than the athletes who finished in third place (who are comparing themselves to the athletes who didn’t make it onto the medal podium at all). You’d think that silver medal winners wo

When you take little things like these for granted, it’s easy to focus all your mental energy, instead, on what you don’t have and to feel sorry for yourself. When you do this, it makes you greedy for the things you don’t have but also don’t need (more money, a n

“If you hold on tight to what you think is your thing, you may find you’re missing all the rest.”

As an attempt to appear absolutely perfect (in volleyball and in other parts of my life), I became unwilling to make mistakes, unwilling to look silly, unwilling to try new things, and I created anxiety for