Self Leadership and the One Minute Manager

Self Leaders:

Challenge Assumed Constraints,
Celebrate Their Points of Power,
And Collaborate For Success.

Strategic approach first, then creative, then budgets and schedules. You went with what you knew, but in this case it

A Leader Is
Anyone Who
Can Give You the
Support And Direction
You Need
To Achieve
Your Goal.

“You celebrate your points of power, the second trick of self leadership, by highlighting your strengths and resources. But you’ve gone even one step further and identified other people who have points of power that you can draw upon as you implement your plan. You must feel good about that.
“And, finally, you have started using the third trick of self leadership—collaborate for success—by prioritizing your most important goals on the United Bank account, diagnosing your development level on each of them, and determining the leadership style you need.”

You challenge assumed constraints, the first trick of self leadership, by listing potential and actual assumed constraints that could limit your success on the United Bank account. The way you turned your assumed constraints around is very effective. I especially liked this one: ‘My assumed constraint is that I think Roger is egotistical and won’t listen to anything I say.’ The turn-around statement: ‘Roger is not egotistical and is open to my recommendations.’

“When you tell someone you want something, their first thought is usually, We all want things we can’t have. When you use the I need phrase, you’re coming from a position of strength. You’ve thought about what it’s going to take to succeed and are requesting a person’s help. It’s amazing, but human beings love to feel needed. They love to think they can help you. ‘I need’ is very compelling.”

“It is better for you to just simply state your needs truthfully: ‘Rhonda, I need fifteen minutes of your time to discuss this project. If this isn’t a good time, I can come back at three o’clock.’”

Cayla, I hope this isn’t another dumb question. But what makes a question dumb? Obviously not all questions are dumb. In fact, I’ve always heard that there’s no such thing as a dumb question.”
“Smart question,” Cayla said. “There are three types of dumb questions. One, when the answer is obvious. Two, when you’re not willing to hear a certain response. And three, when you already know what you want to hear.

The Two Most
Powerful Words
To Collaborate
For Success Are:
“I NEED.”

Steve waited to hear what the two words were.
“I need,” Cayla declared.
“That’s it?”
“Correct,” Cayla said firmly.
“That’s interesting; Cayla, but what does that have to do with you giving me feedback?”